Facebook response to my comment on Isis Magazine’s so-called “apology” (just to be clear, this is a response from a guy that has no affiliation with Isis other than liking their page):
No. Just because you’re “offended” doesn’t make you right. Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean that I need to do what you say, consider growing up a little bit and realizing that different people think and believe different things, and that’s fine. Realize that sometimes people will say things that you don’t like, and that’s ok. Just because you don’t like something, just you are *gasp* offended by something. Offense mean, quite literary nothing, and anyone who is offended by that article needs to loosen up and realize you wont like everything that everyone writes.
The idea, the mere suggestion that because YOU didn’t like a phrase in an essay they published, and because YOU interpreted it as offensive, that it should be censored is horrifying. Does anyone think the author of this article genuinely has something against bi-sexual woman? No, so the issue here is over a line, in an essay that some people interpreted as offensive. So where we’re at right now is you want to censor an essay, because if the way you interpret it. Not the way the author intended it, the way you interpreted it.
Doing that, I believe would go against many things the writers and editors of Isis believe in. So with all do respect, I do not care about your offense, and neither should anyone else.
Oh, it is ON, motherfucker.
I never said that taking offense makes me right. But to say that it my offense “means nothing” — that the offense of a number of bisexual women who had similar responses to mine “means nothing” — ignores the fact that biphobia does have a real impact in society. This is just a story on the Internet, sure. But it reflects real-life attitudes that are harmful to bisexual people. Pointing that out does not mean I am trying to censor the people at Isis. It means that I am trying to encourage them to be more considerate of other members of the LGBTQIA community. This is a community based on giving each other the acceptance, respect and support that LGBTQIA people are so often denied in a heteronormative society.
Isis Magazine even says in their statement that they pride themselves on being ”created to give voices to students whose voices aren’t otherwise represented in on-campus publications.” They said so in their apology. As part of the LGBTQIA community, which already focuses enormously on the G and the L and often ignores other orientations, I think bisexuals qualify as people who aren’t heard very often. Their voices matter just as much as anyone else’s. I’m not saying that Isis can’t publish what they want, I’m saying I reserve the right to call them out on it. That is free speech too. When people are hurting me, I have the right to ask them to stop and think about what they are doing. If they want to continue to hurt me anyway, what does that say about them?
I said in my response that I was sure the author didn’t intend offense. Her intentions, however, do not mitigate the real-life effects that these kinds of words have in our society, that result in bisexuals being alienated in a group of people that already knows what that feels like, and how harmful it is.
"Growing up" means learning to respect other people. "Growing up" means learning when to speak up for yourself and not to let others put you down. "Growing up" means standing up and speaking up against random white dudes who think they reserve the right to decide what is hurtful to other people and what isn’t.
Random white dudes can jabber all they want. I’m not going to stop them. But I reserve the right to have an opinion about their opinions, and in this instance my opinion is that you’re a bigoted asshole. I’m not censoring you. I’m not telling you not to talk, like you’re telling me not to talk. I’m telling you that your opinions reek of ignorance and continuing to air them is making you look worse than it’s making me look.
Also, they fucked up in as much as they tout themselves as a feminist magazine. If your feminism is biphobic then it’s low grade feminism in the extreme.